FAI, WHAT DO SEX THERAPISTS DO?
WHO COMES IN TO SEE YOU?
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I work as a Sex Therapist (translation = we talk about sex in a therapeutic environment) and I love, love, love my work passionately. I meet the most amazing people who allow me into their private lives. The journey into my office for some people is smooth sailing. Some people know sex therapists exit, they make the appointment and in they come.
For some the journey has been long and arduous. They question whether anything or anyone can really make anything better. Once they have passed through that hurdle they still need to give themselves permission to open up, to discuss, reveal and explore their most private secretes. To believe that their concerns are worthy of a discussion or are they just being stupid and making a big deal out of nothing.
They might talk about their libido (men and women), pain during sex, their erectile functioning, their ejaculations, they question whether they have ever had an orgasm. We discuss their performance anxiety, their ability to feel like a man post radical prostatectomy, their fear of touching their wife now that she has lost her breasts and is undergoing chemotherapy, she may be angry because nobody told her that her vaginal wall could become thin, inflamed and so dry. Females struggle to understand their partners low libido and guys continue to try to understand their partners sexual rhythms.
Sex can be an amazing part of our lives, however we are afraid to talk about it, to reveal our private selves, to be judged.
We can be light hearted about sex, we can talk to our friend about sex but for those whose sex lives are not going so well, they aren’t laughing on the inside. This isn’t fun and games.
I don’t blame them for keeping things to themselves but unfortunately it also means that many real conversation about real sexual concerns may never be had. This leaves you feeling isolated and highlights that you’re the only one with problems like these.
Yes, Thank you.
- Don’t believe that anyone can help them
- They are worried that I will suggest they do things that they are uncomfortable with. Which is not the case.
- They have been to couples counselling, however they did’t feel that they could discuss sex with them. They now feel that they don’t want to go through all of that again so they may postpone coming in.
- Have had a negative experience when raising their sexual health concerns with someone in the past.
- Many clients especial females have a had negative experiences with GP’s and other health care providers.
We need to start taking the topic of sex, sexual health and peoples sexual experiences seriously because the consequences are as real and serious as any health and quality of life issue.
- Our self-esteem can plummet
- We may choose to stay home rather than try to meet and date someone
- People can become suicidal
- Relationships can break up
- Families can fall apart
- People fall apart
Is time that we as a society gave the subject and our fellow friends, family and community members the respect that they deserve.
I believe that taking action now can save your from experiencing months and years of distress.