Is Porn Addiction Real

When I started working I honestly didn’t think that internet porn addiction was a real thing.

I didn’t feel like any of my clients were as deeply affected porn as you might assume that someone would be to call it an addiction.

• My girlfriend thinks I want her to act like a porn star
• Yeah, my girlfriend wasn’t very happy when I wanted to cum on her face
• My partner gets upset when I watch porn
• I only watch it once a week, but she just hates the idea of me masturbating
• She thinks I’m cheating on her when I’m watching porn but I’m not

• It upsets me because I always think he’s comparing my body to the pornstars body and I can’t compete
• He thinks I should be able to orgasm as easily and as quickly as they do
• He thinks that I’m not enjoying sex because I don’t make as may noises or scream with pleasure like they do

The above stories are common and they have the ability to cause much heartache.

They highlight the many sexual beliefs and scripts that people have and how these differences can affect us and our relationships negatively.

I love helping individuals and couples work through these, because I understand that sometimes we need a third party to help us understand the situation a little better and to help us work through them.

Even though porn is a part of these issues, the issues in themselves do not represent a porn addiction problem.

Yep, I myself didn’t really see the problem with watching some porn.

You watch a little, you play a little, it all sounded normal to me.

In fact if someone was unable to tap into their erotic thoughts, if they didn’t really know what turned them on, I would sometimes suggest a little porn viewing and I still do.

Porn was starting to affect their sexual functioning significantly and the guys coming in for therapy were getting younger and younger.

I realized that I needed to do some serious research and update my porn addiction knowledge.

I panicked when I realised that internet porn viewing was creating a set of problems that were not being experienced back when people were watching porn on DVD or VHS and when the net was real really slow.

My clients were now telling me that:

• They could no longer get a strong erection when they were playing on their own
• They struggled getting an erection with their partner
• They couldn’t sustain an erection during sex
• They were experiencing performance anxiety
• Sex and penetration didn’t feel as good as it used to. It was as if the sensitivity in their penis had gone
• They couldn’t ejaculate with their partner
• They no longer felt like having sex
• Their desire for partnered sex was going down
• They preferred masturbating
• They would sometimes be late for work because they were masturbating
• If single, they sometimes preferred staying home to play on their own then going out.

I ask my clients when they realized that they had a porn related problem.

Most guys say that they noticed some minor changes in their sexual experiences ages ago, but they had not linked these problems with watching porn.

That actually makes sense to me because. They didn’t think that their sexual problems had anything to do with their internet porn viewing because they didn’t experience these problems when they were watching porn!

If you watch porn and you think that this may be affecting your sex life then come in for a chat.

We can assess the factors that may be influencing your sexual experiences.

We can assess whether or not your porn use is influencing your sexual performance/desire/arousal.

I can help you understand how and why internet use is affecting your sexual performance.