American tattoo model Michelle “Bombshell” McGee said talking was the key for couples who wanted a steamy sex life.
McGee, who is visiting Perth for the first time to promote adult lifestyle show Sexpo, said couples must be able to talk about their needs and desires, a sentiment shared by Perth sex therapist Fai.
Fai and McGee will host sexuality seminars during Sexpo, with topics including “How to keep your partner happy”.
McGee said her second tip for couples was to have fun with apples.
“Eating apples can be really sexy,” the adult entertainer said.
She urged people to practise eating the fruit sensually; which leads to her third tip: role-playing.
“Try new things,” McGee said.
Sexpert Fai, as she is known, said she had helped couples explore their sexuality while restoring their relationships.
Problems had included low libido – for men and women – sexuality following a major illness and the art of tackling communication and expectations.
Her top tip for couples is to never forget the good times.
“Remember what you loved doing when you were first together,” Fai said.
“My second tip is communication – explain what you enjoy and don’t enjoy. Couples need to listen to their partner’s needs and then integrate these into their play.”
Fai said couples needed to feel comfortable in the bedroom and allow their passion to escape.
“Get into a sexual headspace when you are in the bedroom,” she said.
“Be there – in the moment – and focus on each other.”
Couples needed to discuss the issue of sex toys before bringing them home.
“Have a chat about what you feel comfortable to bring into the bedroom,” she said.
“There is a place for toys in a relationship. People attach a meaning to them, but they don’t have one.
“Toys can be soft, sensual and loving and they can bring in an element of light-hearted moments.”